“There are no bad teams; only bad leaders.” – Leif Babin, co-author of Extreme Ownership
When I first became a manager back about 5 years ago, I was clueless. And frightened.
What had I gotten myself into? And WTF do I do now?
I’d worked for good and bad managers since I was a teenager, so I knew that teams rise and fall based on who’s leading them.
And I didn’t want to be a terrible manager. So I read books, starting with John C. Maxwell, Brian Tracy, Darren Hardy, and Dale Carnegie. I even forked up some cash to spend a year being mentored by Mr. Maxwell himself. (For the record, it was money well spent. I’ve climbed the ‘ladder’ and doubled my income since that year.)
There’s a common theme running through those books and my newest, favorite book (Extreme Ownership).
Leaders make or break a team.
And that’s not just at work. It can be any “team” such as family, friends, sports, etc. That fact was driven home this past weekend when I realized that I can apply what I learn for work to my home life as well.
Example – My husband and I got into an argument and it was my fault. Rather than fall back to defensiveness, as I sometimes (most times) do, I stepped back and thought, “If I was called to the carpet for something I did at work, would I bitch out? Or bite the bullet, own it, and fix it?”
So I bit the bullet, owned my crap, and made amends. Let me tell you, the argument ended much earlier than it normally would have. And, I feel we came out of it a bit stronger than normal, too. No sulking, no cold shoulders, no moping. It was refreshing and mature. And fully owning my actions at home is now my new normal. (How did I get this old without realizing this so much earlier?)
Now, I don’t think I’m the leader in my marriage. We’re definitely partners. But in everything you do with partners, someone has to take the lead in the task. Sometimes that’s him; sometimes that’s me. And when it’s me, I can (try to) be just as good a leader to my home team as I try to be to my work team.
What about you? Do you try to take some of the positive techniques you use in your work life to make your home life happier and smoother? Feel free to share some of those tips and tricks here and on our Facebook page!
Favorite Leadership Books
These are some of the books that have helped me the most over the past five years, with Extreme Ownership being my newest and favorite. Seriously; it’s an incredibly fascinating book.
- Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink & Leif Babin
- How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
- The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live Them and Reach Your Potential by John C. Maxwell
- The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You by John C. Maxwell
- The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
- No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline by Brian Tracy
- Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time by Brian Tracy
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